Hoops

Dealing with Parent Coach

Parents are a major source of supply of new coaches and many districts struggle to attract coaches at all. My 3 kids played in a number of teams where a parent was a coach. It is pretty common. By and large, the parent coach handled it quite well and were quite objective. Sometimes a problem can arise not so much due to favoritism but when a child is encouraged to make poor decisions on court, or play a sub-par isolation game, due to a coach lacking experience and knowledge.

True about above post, education is the key. Knowing how to spell when ranting is a prime example.

I want to acknowledge all those parents who get off their arse instead of whinging so players can play when there is a shortage of coaches. I also want to recognise many parent coaches who do manage the issues of having their son or daughter on the team and i fact can be harder on them than other players. Often parent coaches have a background and talent in the game so sometimes their child may actually be the best player on the team. Many parent coaches and child have an agreement of calling rhe parent coach or bytheir first name and the parent
Reminds them they are not their mom or dad at basketball. Many are very profession. So do not tar everyone with the same brush. Lastly you do not have to be a parent to have favourotes. Some coaches lack the maturity or experience to seperate their personal like of a players personality or an individual skill over what makes a good player for the team to be balanced and successful. Every player brings different talents. We have all seen coaches who allow some players to get away with poor play in specific skills or decisions without repremand when others are instantly punished. It is human nature parent or not and not everyone is good at being impartial and doing what is right for a team and the game at hand. This is up to the club and coaching director to observe, educate and monitor coaches to ensure the best interest of the team and players is at and hand and development to improve concerns is implemented. Education is the key. Before during and after, it must be continous lifelong learning.

Unfortunately parents will often think that their child is better than others in front of them. Sometimes its a positional need, a lesser player is in front based on needs, cant have all guards or all bigs. Its unfortunate but then based on that then leave to another club that has a need.

That's why it's a hypothetical post for advice without specifics of club/coach/player. If when presented info as Chewie has, the parent is still confident their position is correct, then the general gist of the advice may as well stand.

Parent/Coach isn't ideal but sometimes clubs don't have enough coaches.

If your kids is getting a good coaching or the coach is only there for a season, then stay.

Teach your kid to work through unfairness with hard work and resilience.

If a club is dumb enough to bring a a player/parent coach from elsewhere as a package, you're better off elsewhere

There's a very good reason why districts clubs don't let parents coach their own kids. They either do what you have described, or go the opposite and go harder on them. Either way, not a good situation.

You should fight him.

Eastern Mavs??

I was going to suggest changing team/club as well. Seems harsh, but if it's unlikely to change after a season, and it seriously frustrates you, I don't know that you can change the situation unless you change the actual situation and leave.

Can't see that broaching it with the coach or the club is realistically going to do much.

Yeah I'd say change gender

Change team/club